On Awkward Days…

… And Processed Cheese
A squirrel ate my pumpkin
I have this group of women friends that I, well, sort of worship. I knew them from college. We all worked together on the daily newspaper.

It only recently occured to me that maybe, just maybe, I wasn’t actually friends with them.

Maybe it was that friend-ish-ness, where you later see yourself in a photo with them and realize: Weird, I am standing next to them, but not with them.

(Of course, we’ve all re-connected on Facebook and I am reliving that feeling again.)

This is true insecurity. That sudden feeling that one might not be what one believed all along.

When I was in London, working at the Warrington, I had a case of lucky ignorance. I had no idea that I was foisting myself upon a pack of wonderful and unsuspecting people that I now call friends. I was so sure that anyone would want to be friends with me that it didn’t occur to me for a minute that they wouldn’t. Or that the social norms of British tradition had been well trampled upon in my quest to join their table. Even in my awful yellow shirt.

The outcome, however, was wonderful. My British (some French, some South African, some Australian, but all Londoners) friends took me for who I was, because I was guileless. Ignorant is the other word for that, you know.

But when I feel AWARE, that’s when I suddenly find myself stumbling… and overthinking everything.

Like with this wonderful posse of writer-friends from my past who have reconvened. I am anxious to make someone happy to see me, yet, I keep missing the bus altogether.

Which is to Say…

Life is awkward and messy. Especially when overly processed.

Cheese is the same way.

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Elizabeth Howard

Elizabeth writes literary non-fiction, haiku, cultural rants, and Demand Poetry in order to forward the cause of beautiful writing. She teaches and speaks about the rhetorical impact of beautiful writing. A recent transplant to Connecticut, she calls London, Kansas City, and Iowa home.

 

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  6 comments for “On Awkward Days…

  1. karen
    November 9, 2010 at 6:26 pm

    Makes so much sense to me…I live so much of my life feeling that way…EXCEPT for when I don’t…and that’s wonderful.

    I’ve always preferred Goat cheese and Gorgonzola.

  2. Jill
    November 10, 2010 at 8:46 am

    You are nothing short of amazing.

  3. November 10, 2010 at 9:50 am

    Oh, I so love goat and gorgonzola! There was a kind of pizza in Florence that was basically a personal gorgonzola pizza. It was crispy carby heaven.

  4. Stacy Kearney
    November 10, 2010 at 9:55 am

    You are not alone. I’ve spent years analyzing conversations I’ve had with the almost friends in my life. Obsessing how stupid I feel when the conversation is over. And it always seems to strike when I’m already down. You are not alone.

  5. Tammy Luke
    November 10, 2010 at 12:15 pm

    Ditto here. Always wonder if I said the right things and what everyone is thinking of me. Amazing how we don’t ever grow out of that to some degree, huh?

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