#reverb10 Day 27: The Ordinary Joy of Friends

On Day 27 of #reverb10, Brene Brown asked:

What was one of your most joyful ordinary moments this year?

My moment was an accumulation of split-second realizations: each about the same and exquisitely lovely. They were those moments when you are looking into the eyes of someone and you suddenly see the glimmer of returned love and friendship.

Because we have passed mile marker “Year 3” in Connecticut, it seemed logical that some of our friendships have started to stick. But logic has nothing to do with that vast expanse of loneliness that I always seem to forget about when I get all excited by the prospect of moving somewhere new. I was glad this year to start to feel that “safe” feeling with my friends: where you can begin the task of ordinary friendship and all its wonders.

It’s all well and good. After all it should take a LONG TIME to find “the people” again; you know the ones. The people who:

  • get me
  • forgive me and come back
  • ignore me when I forget to flip the “tact” switch
  • (Actually find my lack of tact sort of charming, and kind of a relief.. in that “She said that! Hah! WOW! I would never have said that. Hmmm, but it WAS what I was thinking….”)
  • laugh AT me at at just the right moments
  • laugh with me the rest of the time
  • don’t act all that surprised if they find me blubbering over in a corner now and then
  • wear their own skin like the most comfy fleece ever!– because those are the only kinds of people I seem to attract
  • carry VIP membership to the Generosity Circle of the Universe.

So today, right now, I am thinking of the sweet friends I earned, gained, grabbed, nabbed, or just got lucky enough to nudge into with the minivan in 2010.

I often am unsure why they hang around me, (waiting for Colin to get home and make dinner?) but I am thrilled to have them for any reason.

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Elizabeth Howard

Elizabeth writes literary non-fiction, haiku, cultural rants, and Demand Poetry in order to forward the cause of beautiful writing. She teaches and speaks about the rhetorical impact of beautiful writing. A recent transplant to Connecticut, she calls London, Kansas City, and Iowa home. 

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  3 comments for “#reverb10 Day 27: The Ordinary Joy of Friends

  1. Karin
    December 27, 2010 at 8:10 pm

    Did I leave my VIP membership card at your house? Can you leave it in my mailbox? Thx.

    • December 27, 2010 at 9:30 pm

      are you kidding?! No way! That thing is VALUABLE!

  2. December 27, 2010 at 9:00 pm

    I’ve given up trying to understand why my friends are my friends and just accept the gift. Which in turn is the hardest thing to do…

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